Wednesday, January 26, 2011

How to Fuck Up Your Relationship / Who Mates for Life Anyway?

"You'll never find anyone like me again!"
I'm thinking, 'I hope the fuck not! If I don't want you,
why would I want someone like you.'

10 Stupid Things Couples do to Mess up Their Relationship
Acording to:
Dr. Laura Schessinger

1. Stupid Secrets:
Withholding important information for fear of rejection.
It’s the struggle against selfishness.
Privacy is something you 'give' out of respect.
Secrecy is when you feel guilty about something you can't tell you partner or spouse.

2. Stupid Egotism:
My freedom/ rights to do what I want are more important than your feeling/ needs
Ask not what you can do for this relationship ask only what this relationship can do for you!

3. Stupid Pettiness:
Make a big deal of the small stuff.

4. Stupid Power:
Never lose an argument
Never sacrifice anything
Always need to be in control
Never let the other forget he or she messed up.

5. Stupid Priorities:
Consuming all your time and energies:
- and an unmade bed has a higher priority than the relationship.

6. Stupid Happiness:
Seeking stimulation and assurance from all the wrong places
To satisfy the immature need to feel good vs.. to be good.

7. Stupid Excuses:
You fight back with excuses, which just cause more damage –learn to apologize.

8. Stupid Liaisons:
Staying attached to relatives and friends who are outright bad influence
and destructive to your relationship
–allowing these folks to hurt your partner.

9. Stupid Mismatch:
Seeing red flags clearly and yet you stay around trying to put a square peg in a round hole
–not knowing when to leave and cut your losses.

10.Stupid Breakups:
Disconnecting for all the wrong reasons.

You forgot being whinny, needy, negative attitude, anger issues and just being plain loco.

So then....

Why do women stay in bad relationships?

He will change.
No. He won’t.

I can’t feed the kids, care for them nor educate them. 
I feel obligated because he has done so much for me e.g. he bought me a car, etc
I don’t have a job without him; where will I go?
(For the above stated reason's, you're now a hoe and he is now your PIMP!)

He's the devil you know.

Scared of starting another relationship because the next guy might be worse than him.
I still love him even if he hits me when he loses his temper or comes home drunk.
He infected me with an incurable disease, so who will want me now.

I have children with him; let me stay for their sake.
 Children are stronger and smarter than you give them credit for.
They will grow up to live their own lives, their lil' spirit journey 
will continue with or without us.
And now-a-days, it's just another part of normal life.
They'd rather split time with two happy parents than live with two loveless ones.

He says he still loves me and cares for me.
He does not.

I have already spent then prime of my life with him and am older now, so let me just stay with him.

Is this what you want?  Really?

If I leave, my family and friends will talk and say I have failed to keep my marriage.

That's your EGO talking.
And if that's an issue, you should have never gotten married.

So, can people just be together... forever?
Sorry...... NO

Who can?
Mate for life:

Gibbons are the nearest relatives to humans that mate for life. They form extremely strong pair bonds and exhibit low sexual dimorphism, which means that males and females of the species are of roughly equal size, a testament to the fact that both sexes are on relatively equal footing in their relationships.

Swans form monogamous pair bonds that last for many years, and in some cases these can last for life. Their loyalty to their mates is so storied that the image of two swans swimming with their necks entwined in the shape of a heart has become a nearly universal symbol of true love.

Black vultures
Good looks are not a prerequisite to a faithful relationship. In fact, black vulture society makes sure of that. They have been known to attack other vultures that have been caught philandering!

French angelfish
You're unlikely to ever find a French angelfish alone — they live, travel and even hunt in pairs. The fish form monogamous bonds which often last as long as both individuals are alive. In fact, they act as a team to vigorously defend their territory against neighboring pairs.

This one species is absolutely monogamous.

In the black darkness of the deep sea, the tiny male anglerfish (perhaps one tenth the female’s size) detects and follows the scent trail of a female of his own species. Once found, he bites his chosen one and hangs on. His skin fuses to hers, their bodies grow together (he gets his food through a common blood supply and becomes essentially a sperm producing organ). They mate for life — a short life for the male.

 Prairie voles
Although most rodents have a reputation for promiscuity, prairie voles break the trend, generally forming monogamous pair bonds that occasionally last a lifetime. In fact, the prairie vole is typically cited as an animal model for monogamy in humans. They huddle and groom each other, share nesting and pup-raising responsibilities, and generally show a high level of supportive behavior.
It’s so simple a mouse could do it.

Turtle doves
Schistosoma mansoni worms
They may not offer the conventional image of love, but these parasitic worms are usually far more faithful than the humans they inhabit. As unromantic as it sounds, they cause the disease schistosomiasis, also known as snail fever. When they reproduce sexually within the human body, they form loyal monogamous pair bonds that typically last the entire cycle.

Bald eagles
They are the national emblem of the United States, and when it comes to maintaining relationships these birds soar much higher than the country they symbolize. Bald eagles typically mate for life, except in the event of their partner's death or impotency — a number far lower than America's divorce rate, which now exceeds 50 percent.

Only about 3 percent of the 5,490 mammal species are monogamous 
(and Homo sapiens isn’t one of them).

3% people... That's an F in that Species Class

Beavers, otters, bats, wolves, some foxes, a few hoofed animals, and some primates live together but dally sexually.

How many species are known to currently exist in the world.

Category                                           Species                                         Totals

Vertebrate Animals

Mammals                                      5,490
Birds                                             9,998
Reptiles                                         9,084
Amphibians                                  6,433
Fishes                                          31,300
Total Vertebrates                         62,305

Invertebrate Animals
Insects                                        1,000,000
Spiders and scorpions                   102,248
Molluscs                                          85,000
Crustaceans                                     47,000
Corals                                               2,175
Others                                             68,827
Total Invertebrates                    1,305,250

List does not include plants and Fungi.

If I were you?

I’d get a sense of humor real quick!
Try seeing it like this…
I know, but try….

Hey, People change… and forget to tell each other.

Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.

How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.

I've learned that people will forget what you said, 
people will forget what you did,
But people will never forget how you made them feel.

Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it.

  Bottom line?

I love you and because I love you I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth
than adore me for telling you lies.

The Bad Man

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

The Importance of Being Real.

Fake Personas

Ever since we were kids, we’ve been looking outside of ourselves... for what?

Heroes. Idols. Role Models.. 
Someone to be other than who we are.

Some of us try to "Keep it real" 
We see people come and people go.
We see people change right in front of our eyes.
We see people pretend to be something, someone they are truly, truly not.

Socially, we naturally tend gravitate to those who influence us somehow.

Sometimes it’s a good influence, sometimes it’s a bad influence… 

But the influence makes feel different about ourselves.

Don't get me wrong, The Bad Man will play the games..
But I know it's just games. The shit is NOT real...

Sometimes, influences take us away from who we are,
we adopt the idea of being like someone else
anyone else other that who we are.

Then we try to make this new persona our real life. 
Why? Well, because life is hard and sometimes we just want to be somebody different..

It's "The Facade"

The equivalent to living a lie, no one can see who you are.

many put on facades just to impress others.

But here's the catch...

People can see through us when we are not being true to ourselves... pretty easily.

Try this.... Accept who you are.
Know that you are good enough for anybody and anything

You don’t have to change shit about who you are for anyone... Ever.

People who come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Be true to yourself. 

Take off the mask.

Why would anyone create a fake persona? 


.... fear that we won't be valued for who we really are
.... fear that we'll be hurt if we put our real selves out there
.... fear of what people will think if we're not what they think we should be
.... fear of not fitting into societal norms
.... fear of not being good enough, worthy enough
.... fear that we need to MO'
mo' this,
mo' that,
mo' something
or  we'll be less... of everything.

Fake personas cause a lot of suffering for the person who's not being real. 

It takes massive amounts of energy to hold that fake shit together. 

And eventually... you're fucked. The true shit begins to show. 

  • Try to be spiritual, positive, or non-judgmental. Better to be flawed, human, and who you are, than to be some shit that just isn't real.
  • Be nice. Take the pressure off yourself and apply that energy towards helping others in need.
  • Stop playing roles that take over your real person. Just be you.
  • Projecting the image to friends and family of being the perfect couple, wife, husband, father, mother, daughter, son, etc.... is BULLSHIT!
  • Being what parents or spouses want, or anyone else wants you to be.... is BULLSHIT! Do you.
  • Acting like all the other kids... BULLSHIT!
  • Being over-sexy, or too caught up in being perfectly beautiful or handsome, thinking that's what's necessary to attract the opposite sex... Unless that's how you make your bread Boo-boo it's... BULLSHIT!

People trying to relate to the fake persona will get a sense that something ain't right.
That gut feeling of mistrust. 

The longer you fake it, the more you hurt the ones who believed in you.

And that is a bitch ass thing to do.

 The Bad Man

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Some Ideas for Gun Control in the United States

Gun Ownership
Sure, everyone should have the right to own a gun.
Registration and Rules 

Must be min 21 y/o
Under 21 accompanied by adult or in military. Period.

Next, how about before we just hand a fool a gun... They answer some questions?

What is your reason for wanting to own a firearm?
Believe me , I get it... But it's not me I'm worried about....
Business Owner?
Law Enforcement?
Protection Agency?
Security Co?
Money transport?
Private Investigator?
Other? Please describe and explain.
How many Firearms do you own and why?
I mean really? How do we let some of these fools get so many guns?
Assault Rifles: (Military, Law Enforcement, National Guard or Coast Guard only!)
Any other large caliber guns:

Now we need some...
"I ain't got money, but I got a gun!" - Should not happen.

Valid Driver License or State ID w/Photo from state of purchase.

Bank account # If you don’t have money in the goddamn bank, why the fuck do you need a gun?

Personal References: Who’s gonna vouch for your ass?
Three people: Names, addresses, phone numbers, Driver Licenses & Social Security Numbers.

Education and Testing:
Mandatory classes taught by Local or State Police
Newly purchased firearm is stored until class is complete.


101 – Learn your firearm.
Make, model, caliber, breaking it down, cleaning, re-building, loading, clearing, storing.

102 - Rules for use.
State and federal gun use laws and penalties.

103 – Use.
Target practice.  Must score at certain level to pass. Before you can walk with your gun.

Registering & Licensing:
Every firearm has a Make, Model and Serial Number.
Every owner has a driver license or state ID and a social security number.

How about we put it all together?

Oh yeah.... How does a Local or State Police Agency pay for the time/hours it takes for an officer to teach these classes? I don't know, maybe by raising the prices of firearms, increasing the tax on a firearm, or simply charge the owner for the damn class.... 
Just a thought...  

Gun Owner Public Notification

Pretty simple.

Everything (accident or crime) leads back to registered owner.
 Just wrong.


Under-aged crimes involving firearms are tried as adult.

With Possession of a Firearm in Public.
Add the words, “with intent to commit murder” to the end of any crime.

If you unlawfully take the life of another human being, 
you loose all rights.
Death or life in prisoned.

And the person who owns the gun
is just as responsible as the person who uses the gun.

I'm just saying...

These are just some quick thoughts based on the recent shootings in the news... I consider myself on of the "Good" guys and I'm telling you, it's far too easy for the "Bad" guys to get guns.

Good luck,
The Bad Man

Saturday, January 8, 2011

Planet Earth!!! Last Call!!

Planet Earth!!! 
Last Call!

So.... now I'm thinking "End of Days" shit...

Like to hear it?
Here it go...

The Apocalypse
 Apparently, these four dudes on horses are gonna fuck us up.

 The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:

First Horseman - White Horse
First Seal = False Peace/False Religion/False Messiah

Second Horseman - Red Horse
Second Seal = War! War! War!

Third Horseman - Black Horse
Third Seal = Famine

Fourth Horseman - Pale Horse
Fourth Seal = Disease

The First Horseman
First Seal - Pestilence 

""I watched as the Lamb opened the first of the seven seals. Then I heard one of the four living creatures say in a voice like thunder, "Come!" I looked, and there before me was a white horse! Its rider held a bow, and he was given a crown, and he rode out as a conqueror bent on conquest.""

O...KAY.... So this guy is not American. We don't fight with bows or wear crowns.

As far as "Conquest" goes, American people don't want to rule the world.  We want everybody to stop fucking around and start working together to better the planet.

That is the true opinion of "America's People" and I hope of other people around the world.

The opinion of the Government and World Leaders? Let's just say they don't really give a flying fuck about the people... US.  - "Its rider held a bow, and he was given a crown, and he rode out as a conqueror bent on conquest."

Second Horseman
Second Seal - War
Red Horse

"When the Lamb opened the second seal, I heard the second living creature say, "Come!" Then another horse came out, a fiery red one. Its rider was given power to take peace from the earth and to make men slay each other. To him was given a large sword.""

Anyone know of any wars going on or brewing? 

Personal message to World Leaders involved......

Truth is the people of this planet don't want to fight each other.

PS., My Chinese astrology sign is "The Fire Horse"
and I'm not feelin' WAR...

Third Horseman
Third Seal - Famine
Black Horse

""When the Lamb opened the third seal, I heard the third living creature say, "Come!" I looked, and there before me was a black horse! Its rider was holding a pair of scales in his hand. Then I heard what sounded like a voice among the four living creatures, saying, "A quart of wheat for a day's wages, and three quarts of barley for a day's wages, and do not damage the oil and the wine!""

Sounds like he's making bread, beer and or pasta... OR taking away the food and it's sources from people thereby causing starvation and famine.

(Just Sayin')

But what the fuck do I know?
Except that I'm getting my family the hell away from and out of  LA before Dec. 2012.

Fourth Horseman
Fourth Seal - Death

 Green or Pale Horse

""When the Lamb opened the fourth seal, I heard the voice of the fourth living creature say, "Come!" I looked and there before me was a pale horse! Its rider was named Death, and Hell was following close behind him. They were given power over a fourth of the earth to kill by sword, famine and plague, and by the wild beasts of the earth."

Part of me says, "FUUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKK!!!" Then I chill.  I blaze a fatty and I think... Hmmmmmm.

"Hold up!

Homey said "given power over a fourth of the earth to kill by sword, famine and plague, and by the wild beasts of the earth."

So? What 4th of the rock are we talking about?

I mean my heart goes out to that quarter... But I'm not tryin' to be a part of it.  That said, if you live in a major city, you may want to consider taking a long vacation before shit happens and there's no food...  for days.... Think about it.

There's more!!

Fifth Seal
Vision of martyrs 

Let’s go way back in time in 1480 when the Ottomans or the Turks invaded Otranto city. A fleet of 70 to 200 Ottoman ships arrived in Otranto and the locals and garrison took shelter at the Castle of Otranto. It was captured by the Ottomans and the garrison was killed by the troops of Mohammed II.

What happened next? Those who refused to convert were slain, 800 of them, taken to the hill of Minerva, the Hill of the Martyrs, and beheaded.

So to honour these locals, who gave their lives to protect their faith, the cathedral preserved the skulls and bones of 800 martyrs behind glass of the altar walls, so it constantly reminds people of the past. Every year during that period on August 14th, this small town of Otranto commemorates the slaughtered souls.

Sixth Seal
Cosmic disturbances:
The sun turns black, moon turns blood red; sealing of the 144,000

And the kings of the earth, and the great men, and the rich men, and the chief captains, and the mighty men, and every bondman, and every free man, hid themselves in the dens and in the rocks of the mountains;

16: And said to the mountains and rocks, Fall on us, and hide us from the face of him that sitteth on the throne, and from the wrath of the Lamb:

I'm no historical or religious interpreter but....
This motherfucker just said 
"Hide your asses!"

Check out: Solar Flares, Polar Shifting and their effects... Oh yeah, look for planetary alignment and go deep.

"For the great day of his wrath is come; and who shall be able to stand"

Don't want to get caught out in a storm?
Consider this...

Check the links... Underground homes, pretty cool

And last but not least...
 Que the horns!!

Seventh Seal
Prelude To The 7 Trumpets of 7 Angels &The Final Judgement 

This is when we (or that unlucky quarter of the population) get judged for our sins.

Interesting fact people:
If you are born... you will die. 

Apocalypse or not.

I suggest that we as humans start enjoying the life we have.

So there it is.

Good luck.
The Bad Man

Once again....
Planet Earth!!! Last Call!!
You ain’t gotta go home, but you gotta get the hell outta here!